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This is a discussion on Sadness within the General Orchid Culture forums, part of the Orchid Culture category; Hi Guys, I'm sure all of you know about the horrible events yesterday at VA ...

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    Hi Guys,
    I'm sure all of you know about the horrible events yesterday at VA Tech. My family is from Blacksburg and I work at Appalachian State University. Because of the close proximity between our two schools, needless to say, yesterday has effected both my family and my place of work profoundly. Going to work this morning and standing in front of my students was a surreal experience, as they too were somber and displaced. I am relieved to know today that my relatives and the three colleagues whom I know at Tech are shaken, but ok. There are many more in my department who are still trying to reach friends. Last night I spent the night at a friends house as both of us couldn't be left alone, and the fierce nor-easter that blew up the east coast this weekend was still whipping us with 70mph winds and freezing temperatures. 4 inches of snow and 30 degree weather in April. The storm's biting intensity and its stubborness to leave was the perfect backdrop to the images thrown at us all night. Perhaps in response to my neglect, but more poetically, in response to the enormity of this tragedy, all of my Phals that were in bud have aborted their pursuit and shriveled. Normally I would be frustrated and defiant, but today it seems more like a metaphoric memorial. To you and yours,
    kitty

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    I am really speechless. Just know that we're here in case you need to talk.

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    Oh Kitty, my heart goes out to you and your community. Such a needless tragedy throws everybody into a spin that lasts for months. So much second guessing, so many families, friends and teachers without any answers. So many beautiful, promising lives aborted suddenly for no reason and with no recourse. And their stories are endlessly displayed in the media to emphasize the magnitude of the loss.

    I remember when the Columbine shooting occurred not far from where I live; it affected everyone so deeply--even those with no direct link. So much introspection--and sadness.

    I'm really sorry you and those you love are so close to the center of the storm. It will not be over soon, but as Clint said, your online friends are here for you if that is ever helpful. God Bless you!

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    I just wanted to echo what has been said. There has been a lot of coverage on our news over here, with shock and sadness as images and interviews have been shown.

    I cannot imagine what it must be like for you, with your friends and your colleagues so closely involved, but my thoughts are with you.

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    God bless you dear. Know we are all thinking of you and the oh so many others that have been struck by this tragedy. I am horrified and angry and sad, and I can't imagine what it must be for you. Write any time you need to.

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    From all the way here down south, know that we are also thinking of everyone affected by this tragedy... hugs to all!

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    Kitty, there are no words that can adequately express what you or your friends are feeling. There are no words that capture our helplessness in watching from afar, but with torn hearts and souls for the pain you feel that we can't assuage. Words simply aren't made for such rugged duty.

    But love, tender caring, silent but watchful solidarity, and the knowledge of a greater community of friends feeling all these things for you, can offer some comfort. Know you have that from all of us!

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    "Words simply aren't made for such rugged duty".....that really is a delicate but profound way to put it Julie. Thank all of you for your thoughts. Because I look at the world like a tapestry of coincidence, I am now coveting my single, seemingly lasting spike on my Brassia. Even though the connection between tragedy and rebirth and mother earth and growth in nature is all overdone and sensationalized and brutilized, I must confess that the one remaining spike in my orchid collection has provided me with perspective today. In a day filled to the rim with phonecalls and emails and messages and he-said-she-said-well I heard-well what did you hear?-I just saw it one the news.....the undetectable movement in that one spike that survived the cold and my neglect seems to snap at me from the corner of the den. I look at it. I've looked at it all day, and not as an orchid addict, but to make sure that it was still there and still green. As if I could tell if it had grown since yesterday. I live in a small place with no doors, save the door to the outside. A shotgun apartment that is reminiscent of the Edgar Allen Poe tale "the Masque of the Red Death" where Poe takes the reader through a series of rooms, linear in nature, and all displaying a single color that gravely affected the guests as they moved, innocuously, through each chamber. Sometimes I find my apartment similar in character as I walk from the den to the kitchen to the bedroom to the bathroom to a wall, a yellow wall. For you literature people out there, reference "the yellow wallpaper" by Charlotte Perkins Gilman. Today has felt like that walk, from one room to another and returning, just to sit down again, and look at my spike. I will spare you the rumination on the enduring life force, we shall carry on, we must listen and learn from this. I won't write a haiku about brassia spikes and American violence. I'm not going to join a candle vigil. And this isn't because I think such pursuits are futile. I don't. But sometimes I think that grief just means that you are suppose to sit there, on the concrete, and challenge yourself, your environment, your culture and your role in at all. So, in place of those appropriate responses, I'm just going to sit on the pavement and look at my spike. Forgive the fact that I have taken advantage of your attention in order to vent. Who knew that an orchid forum could be so compassionate and patient with a rogue orchid fanatic.

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    Kitty,

    Your ruminations are a natural reaction to the shock, and sadness, and senseless loss that's occurred. Don't you dare stop venting. Don't - just tell us what you feel.

    I'm reeling too. I only just learned about an hour ago, that one of the students killed was from a neighboring town. It shouldn't make a difference - whether or not a victim was from close by - but it does. I'm struggling with whether or not to offer my piping services to the family. It's an awful choice. Will they resent the intrusion? Will it appear as though I'm seeking a spotlight? It's easier to say nothing, but for some families that opportunity means so much. And yet it's always a struggle to find a delicate balance amidst so much grief and shock.

    Find some peace tonight, Kitty - I'll be looking for the same!

    Julie

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    I can't add to what has been said , All I can say is, we are here for you . Hugs Gin

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