Very sorry to hear your bad news, let's all hope for a full recovery!
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This is a discussion on Back home with some new plants within the New Growers: Ask the Senior Members forums, part of the New Growers category; Maura and I have been back home from our October in Maine for 3 weeks ...
Maura and I have been back home from our October in Maine for 3 weeks now and I'm sill not unpacked yet. I receive some new babies shortly after getting home. I shouldn't have posted this until I have postable photo's to go with it, but I needed to say hello. I got a baby Magdelina, about 3 years away from blooming size (very cute, like an infant sesquadedelia), a massive neofinetia falcata (this thing is huge. A veriagated neofinetia falcata that I will report the full name of when I post pics, and a few others I can't name right now.
We visited some fine nurseries up and down the Eastern seaboard, got some good material and it arrived in amazingly good shape. I promise to follow up with this with a post with good photo's.
The biggest negative of the trip was when we got home and the lady with the $200,000 victorian green house (immediate past president of the Atlanta Orchid Society) gives us back our orchids and they are in horrible shape, many of which have had to have been thrown away. She volunteered to take them to her green house and we thought "how nice". All of my orchids are in fine shape, looking like they have been to an orchid spa, but Maura's you honestly wouldn't believe. Her AOS prize winning Royal Robe was left with 3 spikes and as healthy as could be. When we got it home it was on it's last leg. It has been airlifted to a nursery where it will (might) be revived along with several more of her prize winners.
We've thrown away many and she has worked tirelessly to save the remainder. For days now Maura has had the living room floor covered with water, chemical mixes, insecticides, fungicides, you name it - all to try to save the bulk of her flowers from not being watered to having been sprayed with killer pesticides'
The worst part is that as much as we do not want to think so, it appears this woman tried to kill her orchid purposefully. We are not the kind of people who would ordinarily even consider this, but this devastation in such a short period of time couldn't have happened if we had watered well and left them alone for the month. I can not describe the level of devastation - cut off new growth for one thing, and would be should that be all.
The worst consequence of the entire experience is that is has caused Maura not enjoy her orchids and it feels like forced work to her now. She is run down and very low and has no excitement for her collection now. Heartbreaking I tell you.
We are relatively new to the Atlanta orchid Society and she has won several monthly ribbons, many for first place and then won an HCC/AOS on her second try. We joked around that some of the older members might feel like we didn't deserve that or be resentful - but we were joking around. Well, I really hate to say this, but have tp be honest, it appears that the past president of the society is just that petty. She is the official AOS photographer as well and she really messed up Maura's prize winning photos that will be placed in AQ Plus and appear in the AOS publication. She still hasn't turned in the photo's and it's been since early September when she won. All the other photo's have been turned ion.
Sorry to post such a "down" post as we like to find the likable things in everyone, even those that appear to have no redeeming characteristics - they nearly always do. This woman has appeared to have acted maliciously, and hatefully at best and I hate feeling this way about her.
We will both get over it and move on and loose our resentment toward her because that only hurts us, not her. But if you find yourself in Atlanta with your orchids and need a place to put them, don't let this woman volunteer to put them in her "Bates Motel" for you. The results are scarier than "Psycho"
Very sorry to hear your bad news, let's all hope for a full recovery!
Scathing, but still true. I read 'The Orchid Thief' by Susan Orlean and she describes a sabotage incident (true story) between two major Florida nursery growers, so I guess that element is somewhere in the orchid-growing world. One very good reason why I've designed MY orchid world around the kind of spirit so embodied and fostered in this forum - this is a special place for me, as I know it is for all of us, a safe place in a world of unexpected bad feelings and actions.
Yes, I'm still in shock and it hurts; my collection is down by about 2/3rds, and the survivors are mostly charity cases, but I won't let this ruin the joy orchid growing has brought me. I guess it will just take time to recover from it all.
This is a strange and awful incident. It will take sometime to heal this wound Maura, but as you know it will get better. Remember that at least your nothing like the woman responsible. She must be a troubled soul and that is her constant hurt and burden Thank goodness it's not yours. AL
Oh, no! I'm so sorry to hear this - as if you and Maura hadn't already had enought to go through this year... I hope things go better soon.
I'm afraid this entire incident has created a set back for Maura. She has plants soaking in water bare rooted and lots of repotting to do, but is in the bed sick. We have pool league tonight and she really likes that (and is good), but has said she's just not up to it. Things that would be at most be mildly troublesome take on a life of there own for her and it's just pitiful. It hurts me to see it. Orchadsal, you are right, that woman has some major issues and that is none of my business. I can only control my own reactions and actions toward someone, I can't control what they do.. We have a tremendous amount to be grateful for and I will think of all those things - the old attitude of gratitude. Nothing quite like it. Maura will bounce back, it just pains me to see her hurt so bad and I have to watch my reaction as it is a far worse thing you do if you hurt her than should you hurt me. In the meantime, I am here for what ever she needs and that is well and truly an honor. Ask me one day, and I'll tell you what it feels like to be the luckiest man in the world. Phillip C
What a wonderful sentiment, Phillip. Maura is a very lucky woman.
O'my god! Maura and Phillip you must have been devastated ( putting it midly). Youve done the best thing by being open about it and expressing your disappointment, shock and anger here. For the first time I have literally got a mental frozen block of words. Remember 'what goes around comes around'. If i were closer I would have given her a place to ram her victorian greenhouse!
The concept of taking the days one at a time are most relevant here as you will struggle to find closure for a short while with the great extent of reminders around you at mo. Shame to have been forced to use this incident as a learning curve based on its severity! and so personal as this. A Sad, angry, bitter and jealous woman but dont give it up or walkaway. It may seem numbing and traumatic at mo but one thing that awful woman cant do is take your passion and love, dedication and pleasure away from you. Your orchids are lucky to have you!!!!!You may have been at the top of the ladder and knocked down abit but you both will climb and reach the top again. The witch maybe laughing now but it will be you and maura that has the last laugh as time heals and your orchids once again flourish with displays of blooms.
What ever you do (unless to late) don t let the witch see how badly its affected you emotionally, mentally and physically. She will feed/thrive on that. Many people unfortunately play malicious/ devious mind games and feed on the misery/ misfortune of others. Often the situation has been instigated/ manipulated by them anyway. Chose to keep it behind closed doors at mo while the aftermath is still raw. And dont react/ show reaction either otherwise she will love it and score points for her satisfaction.. ...she hasnt won yet and she wont. For Maura!!Use your anger and turn it into determination. People like her are bitter and angry. Theres only one of her. Theres two of you.!!!!!!Play her at her own game.
I am so sorry to hear all this.
@maura,,Hope you feel better soon. If you believe in Karma this person will get her due tenfold. "Every Naploeon has his Waterloo"
@Phillip, Bless you for your kindness to Maura.
Both of you take care.
My Love to you both
What a horrifying sight to come home to! I hope that Maura perks up soon. And you are a better man than me. I'd have kicked that woman in the c$@&!
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