I have one complex, Sue, out of over 20 paphs. It blasted on me last summer when I was too busy piping to water it properly, so I didn't have the chance to come to love it.
There's beauty there, and an attraction, but I think your right (as I see it, anyway), it has to take root. So to speak.
Still, it's a handsome flower. Nothing wrong with that one. Good luck with your relationship!